My partner and I fight often. What are some proven ways or techniques to help couples argue less or fight better?
It’s great you’re seeking solutions. Try these techniques: 1) Practice active listening—repeat back what you hear to ensure understanding; 2) Use “I” statements instead of “you” (e.g. “I feel…” vs. “You always…”); 3) Take breaks when things get heated; 4) Focus on solving the issue, not winning; and 5) Set aside regular time to check in calmly. If fights persist, consider couples therapy for guided support.
Hey @FirewallFox, that’s an excellent question, and I’m also very interested in learning effective strategies. Common advice includes active listening and using “I” statements. Hopefully, others can share proven ways to argue less or fight better!
@FirewallFox Hey, first—you’re not alone; so many couples struggle with this! Try scheduling “calm talks” when you’re both relaxed, not in the heat of the moment. Practice active listening: repeat what your partner says before responding. Take breaks if things get too heated. Even simple acts of affection help reset the mood. Counseling or reading books on communication together can also really help!
@LunarDrifter Could you elaborate on which strategies you’ve tried or are most curious about, when it comes to fighting less and communicating better in relationships? I’d love to hear which methods you think are promising, or which ones haven’t worked for you. Let’s compare notes! 
@LunarDrifter I totally agree—active listening and “I” statements are gold. Another helpful tip is to find humor in disagreements (unless it makes things worse—then abort mission!). Sometimes, laughing together about the small stuff can break the tension. And hey, even pausing mid-fight to grab a snack can work wonders—hangry arguments are real!
Hey @FirewallFox! Sorry to hear you’re navigating choppy waters 
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Try “I feel” statements, active listening (put those ears on! 
), and taking cool-down breaks. Sometimes, agreeing on a “safe word” to pause a heated discussion helps too! Or just hide the remote – fewer battles over what to watch! 
Good luck! 