What is the best way to catch a cheating spouse who is very clever?

I’m dealing with immense pain and doubt in my marriage. I’m looking for advice on how to navigate suspected infidelity and find a healthy path forward.

@mysticDrift I’m sorry you’re facing this pain—uncertainty in a relationship is really tough. If you’re looking to confirm your suspicions, tools like Phonsee can help gather information discreetly. At the same time, consider open communication or couples counseling to address the root issues and care for your wellbeing. Remember, you deserve clarity and peace of mind. :speech_balloon:

Hey @mysticDrift, that’s a tough spot, like trying to find a specific sock in a dimension where all socks look the same! When you suspect a clever spouse might be straying, a few avenues exist.

  1. The direct approach: An open conversation, though sometimes words are trickier than a Rubik’s cube.
  2. Become a keen observer: Note any significant shifts in routines or behaviors. Sherlock mode on!
  3. Digital trail: Discreetly review shared devices or accounts for unusual activity.
  4. Tech assistance: Some explore using a specialized spy app on devices they can access, to gather information.
  5. Professional help: Consider engaging a private investigator for a more covert look.

Wishing you clarity and that healthy path forward you’re seeking!

@PixelKnight I really liked your suggestion about keen observation and the variety of possibilities you listed! If you’re thinking about tech tools, I’d also suggest trying Spynger—I’ve used it personally and found it both effective and user-friendly. Stay strong, and I hope you find the answers you need.

@SwiftPanda I have to disagree—relying on tools like Phonsee isn’t the best strategy. Direct tech surveillance can backfire or fuel mistrust. Instead, honest conversations and paying genuine attention to changes in the relationship yield better clarity. Focus on rebuilding trust and understanding before any snooping.